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    Selma Blair has posted this picture of her and SMG on Instagram. Selma Blair has been diagnosed with MS and SMG is at her side in the fight against this terrible disease.

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    SMG's has been a good friend both to Shannon Doherty who's had cancer, and Selma Blair who was diagnosed with MS.


    • #3
      SMG seems like a really great friend to have. Often people nick off when serious illness happens. Just proves that she only added to the charm of her character on Buffy


      • #4
        It must be hard for actors to stay real friends, when they are in a very competitive industry and competing for the same roles. I admire these women for being able to do that and put friendship before career.


        • #5
          Yeah its really great to see those stars that "make it" - real friends, good family, consistency in work. While they probably don't choose to be role models, they are perfect for people to be looking up to. Better than those splashing excess cash around and making petty arguments for the tabloids to run their popularity. Its the good people who should be in positions of power. And actors have far more power now with social media in the mix.

          Its beautiful to see fine people doing fine works.


          • #6
            Originally posted by Quake View Post
            SMG seems like a really great friend to have. Often people nick off when serious illness happens. Just proves that she only added to the charm of her character on Buffy
            oh yes...

            when i returned to work after taking
            almost two years off to deal with something
            that went beyond major depression, a
            frightening number of the colleagues i
            had considered friends refused to have
            anything to do with me on a social level*

            depression, you know, is contagious—

            and academics are particularly fearful of
            it, as they think their life depends upon
            mastery of their minds**

            pity i did not have SMG in their place...

            *guess i should not have been surprised:
            they were among the few who knew why i
            had gone on the leave—and never made
            attempts, while i was gone, to see how
            i was doing...

            **one of the things i have learned is to
            abandon all dreams of mastery...


            • StateOfSiege97
              StateOfSiege97 commented
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              Alas, no...
              Not if the way that they treated
              their deeply depressed students
              is any measure...

            • Quake
              Quake commented
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              Yeah, I dont see understanding of mental health issues improving at all. Those who have the "acceptable" type of worried well anxiety and depression may feel supported by compassionate talking and advertising campaigns, but illness beyond that will never lose its stigma. Sad to say, but proven true in my 20 years of experience with it.

            • StateOfSiege97
              StateOfSiege97 commented
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              I would have to agree—
              only that I would add that from my bitter experience,
              even depression, in its most extreme forms, is far
              from "acceptable"—

          • #7
            I am so sorry, StateOfSiege that you had to experience such a lack of understanding and care from your colleagues.

            I have suffered from a burn out syndrome for a couple of years now. I believe it is important to talk about stuff like this, especially to make other people who suffer from mental issues as well feel they are not alone. I have found that it is quite easy to talk about my issues in forums (I am also frequently on another German forum that has nothing to do with BtVS) and there are usually dozens of people who also have suffered through either depression or burn out or anxiety disorders or whatever.
            However, in real life, people tend to keep mum about mental issues and if I talk about my own they tend to feel uncomfortable or awkward. It hasn't happened to me though that someone really turned away from me. I do agree with Stoney that there is a (slowly) growing understanding with regard to any kind of mental issues but we still have a long way to go.


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            • #8
              many thanks, Stoney and flow

              and yes, talking is crucial:

              in my last years in the Middle East, i became more open
              among my students about my own struggles with depression
              and complex ptsd, as i knew how much they, themselves,
              especially the women, also struggled—

              this led them, in turn, to open out to me—

              of course, i sought to direct them to our counseling services, as
              i was far from trained to treat them... but often, they needed
              someone to open up to first, as preparation to seek real care—

              they needed someone to just talk to, someone who would listen,
              not dismiss their pain as weakness—

              i would make accommodations with deadlines, while still insisting
              that they write their papers, give them all the help they needed
              in doing so, which was also important, both the insistence and
              the help—

              as word began to travel, i was shocked at the number of students
              who came to me—some of them people i had not even taught,
              friends of those i had taught—

              and horrified at the treatment many had received from other
              professors, who dismissed depression as weakness, refused
              accommodations, until i pointed out that they had a legal right
              to them—and many resisted despite the students getting the
              papers that showed their legal right (we were covered by
              american law)...

              i made efforts to change this, which made me not very popular,
              but i have heard it has become at least a little better, at least
              with some...

              others are beyond repair...

              and i know the same holds true on many american campuses:
              i have read that despite the flourishing of Disability Studies, which
              has only recently begun to touch on mental illness, academics
              continue to have difficulty dealing with it beyond the theoretical—

              as Stoney said, it is a slow, slow process—